I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and will be blogging about this new journey in my life. Join me as I experience all this brings into my life. If you have any questions or comments, please comment. I'd love to have this turn into a conversation among friends.
Monday, June 22, 2015
I Am Not a Sideshow Attraction
I've been asked a lot what I need. What I mostly need is prayer, love, support (from a distance), and respecting my wishes and decisions about the choices I am making as I deal with my cancer treatment.
I am requesting no visitors (other than designated caregivers) until after my first post op appointment. At that point, I'll let you know if the no visitation policy has changed.
I am going to spend a few minutes dealing with what I don't need.
I don't need anyone coming over to stare at my new body like a sideshow attraction.
I don't need any crass comments.
I don't need anyone communicating with me like cancer is a death sentence. That is not how I am choosing to address this.
I don't need negativity of any kind around me.
I don't need people assuming they know better than I and my doctors do about how to treat this cancer.
I don't need anyone getting bent out of shape about any treatment decisions (including my no visitors policy)
I don't need you to make this about you and your need to take care of your guilt about your aunt, cousin, friend, grandmother who had cancer and died.
I don't need you to speak to me with sympathy and pity.
I don't need you to get after my husband for following my wishes and making sure my needs are met.